You’re fine just the way you are

Posted on May 18, 2013 by

I’m typing this up shortly after being on the phone with someone who was having a difficult time emotionally after receiving an email from someone they dated listing “everything that was wrong” with them.

I wanted to go slap this person who sent that email.

And then I caught myself.  I had placed blame on another person last week for my perceptions of how they were screwed up because of how I was feeling over their lack of action/response.

The thing is, for both of these cases, it wasn’t the fault of the person I was talking to on the phone and it wasn’t the fault of the person I was dealing with via messages… it was the fault of the person sending the email and my fault.  Our need to place the blame for how we were feeling on the other person.

Indirectly, this all points to a bigger issue of people not being able to be honest with each other and to a greater point:  Women are Bitches.  (Yeah… don’t twist your undies yet – go read the article.)

We women need to be on the same page.  When we feel we aren’t on the same page – we ask questions.  A lot of questions.  But ultimately it comes down to an inability to communicate to people in ways that are understandable, both for men and women.

So, as I said to the person on the phone about this email pointing out all the things that were “wrong” with them.  ”Fuck ‘em.  That’s your personality and if they can’t handle that – that is NOT your problem.”

Lightbulb moment.

I attempted mea culpa.

I think I just bitch-slapped myself.

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Hey! What about the fat slob on the couch?

Posted on May 17, 2013 by

So, last night as I was washing the day off of my face and brushing my teeth before bed, I looked in the mirror and had this thought pop into my head, “Why do all of the articles with advice to spice up marriages always say that the women should pay a lot of attention to their grooming and how they dress?”

What is UP with that?!

Perhaps it was that I was standing there in my dressy t-shirt (it’s a thing… I have a bunch of them) and skinny jeans with my hair pulled up and awry and a toothbrush clenched in my fist as I attempted to remove the remaining traces of a black bean brownie from my maw, but… why is the primping left up to the women in the relationship?  I have yet to read an article that gives a tip telling the men that they should maybe think about dressing in something other than a ratty-ass t-shirt with pizza grease stains and jeans slung down past their drawers.

Want to know what is sexy?  Using a tissue, or gods forbid a handkerchief, and NOT “snorking” that wad of snot up your nose.

Want to know what else is sexy?  Putting some thought into what you wear in public.  That wife-beater that shows off your back hair?  Not sexy.  Why not try a nice pair of jeans, some dressy shoes and a nice shirt; I’m not talking tuxedos here.

I finished my what-had-become-aggressive scrubbing of my teeth and went to bed.

When I woke up, I still essentially had this same “bug up my ass” about why the onus to look like we’re “trying” is always put upon the shoulders of women.

Fuck that.  I put on my jeans, tank top, flips flops and do-rag (not ratty, not stained and I coordinated).  My face was scrubbed, moisturized, sunscreened and BB-creamed and a little dab of mascara applied along with my favorite Chicken Poop lip balm (seriously… I love this stuff).  My hair combed and braided.  That was my effort for the day.  It wasn’t over the top, but it wasn’t bare minimum either.

You don’t like it?  TOO BAD!  I dress how I want for myself and nobody else.  Hmm, I felt a little bit of Eric Cartman coming on for a moment and was about to shout out, “Whatevah!  I can do what I want!”

Yeah! What Cartman says!

Yeah! What Cartman says!

I posed my observation and questions to Mr. Muse this morning on the commute into work and he suggested that perhaps it was a throw-back to when women were expected to be dressed nicely all the time and dote on their men (or catch a man) and the men could gallivant about the town whenever they wanted.

So, what say you?  Have you read articles on relationships where they suggest “keeping up appearances” for both men and women or just the women?

Why do you think that the obligation is put upon women more than men?

Ladies, do you feel it’s your responsibility to be dressed to the nine’s at all times, or is it more of a responsibility to dress how you choose and be comfortable?

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Sarah to Ground Control

Posted on May 16, 2013 by

Perhaps it is only my mind that works this way, then again – perhaps not, but having “seen the light” a couple/few times and given the middle finger to Mr. Reaper, I may have a bit of a twisted sense of humor.  Tuesday, while I was waiting for my second Cardiac MRI, I joked with the medical students and Radiology Techs who were getting me prepped for “tube time”.  The student who retrieved me asked if I’d done this before to which I responded, “I have… Let’s DO THIS THING!”  We chatted, I told him that no one warned me the first time that I’d feel like I pissed my pants while in the tube.  He told me that that was for CT scans, not MRIs, and I told him that it happened with the MRIs, too.  He was surprised, and quickly recovered with “Well, everyone gets a slightly different reaction.”

Nice cover and… fair enough.  He was a friendly guy and learning.  I didn’t want to lay into him too hard.  Because I was going into the 3 Tesla and not the 1.5 Tesla, they made me take out my titanium studs in my ears.  I needed help… which happens when you’re wearing awesome fake nails for a social event.  They pried and tugged and asked if they were hurting me, but they were not and eventually the earrings came out and were put into a specimen jar.

That’s right – SPECIMEN JAR.  Hey!  You use what you have available.  McGyver it!

Because they were “racking” me, putting on the leads and placing a big rack “thingy” (that’s the official term… at least to me), I had to strip from the waist up and put on a hospital gown. Which I rocked.  I joked.  I laughed.  I commented that I wished they had monitors in the tube so I could see what they were seeing because I’d find it FASCINATING (no really).  They said nobody had every commented on that before, but yeah, it might be a great idea.

So, that brings me to things that went through my head as I spent some time in the tube.  Think of this as a clip show…

and thanks to my Mom…

And… it all ended uneventfully.  The 2nd shift Radiology Technicians came in and one was a man who was shaking as he had to remove my IV, apologizing for removing skin in the process. I told him not to worry, but MAN was he shaking.  He said he’d leave the room for the other tech to remove the lead pads, because my breasts would be exposed, and I teased, ‘You can go if it makes you uncomfortable!!”  Seriously… are people REALLY that modest when it comes to this shit, patient or technician?  The female tech laughed.  I laughed.

Okay, maybe that was a little mean.

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MLiP: Taking a Tesla for a Test Drive

Posted on May 15, 2013 by

When I came home yesterday, and told Mr. Muse I took a “Tesla 3″ for a test drive, I received a look of incredulous shock.  Then I got a look of “Heyyyy…. why didn’t you invite me?”  Then I got a look of “Ohhh.  Not a Tesla 3, but a 3 Tesla.  Totally different.”  (He works as an Electrical Engineer for a Design/Build firm specializing in medical facilities… he knows medical equipment.)

Indeed.

For those who have been playing along at home, I started to complain of heart issues when I was fourteen years old.  I was diagnosed 10 years later with AV Node Reentry, a variety of arrhythmia   I had a cardiac ablation which fixed the issue and I was good for a few years.  Then, I got hit again with a new issue, Ventricular Tachycardia, another arrhythmia   Having two separate, yet similar, arrhythmias isn’t common at all.  My cardiologist, Dr. Awesome, would really like to “fix” me, but we’re waiting for technology to get to the stage that they can actually fix everything that needs fixing.  I went through a second cardiac ablation but they couldn’t take care of everything when they were in there.  So, I went through my second Cardiac MRI yesterday in a 3 Tesla MRI scanner.  More power!!

Last time I spent some “tube time”, it was in a 1.5 Tesla MRI and I didn’t have to take out my titanium studs, etc.  This time even the titanium had to come out along with the wedding rings, the glasses and then… I had to wait for them to make sure I could go in with the IUD I have in place.  Yeah, TMI, but if you have one and have to go into an MRI, you’ll be happy to know that the Paraguard is safe for both the 1.5 and 3 Tesla MRI scanners.  Your IUD won’t come ripping out through your soft tissues… which I suggested might be the Radiologist’s concern to the Radiology Technician… which caused her to pause as I laughed about it.  She said that that probably wouldn’t happen, to which I replied, “But if it did…. THINK of the story I could tell people!”

Going through the MRI isn’t too bad.  It’s tiny.  If you’re claustrophobic  you’re probably REALLY going to hate it and I bet you’ll be sedated.  You get to wear HUGE head phones and they play whatever music you want to listen to.  There is a blue light.  The contrast dye is cold and it tastes weird… and you can feel it as it moves through your body.  It might make you feel like you peed your pants.  It’s breezy and chilly in the tube, so ask for a blanket.  There isn’t much in the way of padding – you will probably get sore.  If you have to do breath holds like I did – there will be a lot of them.  All in all, between napping in the prep area while they made sure I wouldn’t have my IUD come ripping out and then an hour in the tube, my afternoon was spent doing a lot of waiting.  And driving, but mostly waiting.

I had some great Radiology Techs yesterday who humored me with by taking some photos on my cell.  Thanks Univerity of Wisconsin Hospital – Radiology!!!

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Sunday Morning and sitting in the kitchen

Posted on May 12, 2013 by

I am grateful to have a kitchen that actually has space for me to set up Brutus the laptop when I need to read a recipe from the internet.  Pinterest has become a huge time-suck for me, though thankfully I have time for Pinterest to fill, and I find a lot of recipes on there to try and/or remake into gluten free versions.  One cousin has said of Pinterest, “Pinterest is the spawn of the procrastination devil.”

Truth.

But yesterday I found myself making the black bean brownies I love so much and turning them into a “clean out the cupboard” version.  Another cousin, who lives off of bags of red vines and chocolate candy, told me that I ruined them by “adding stuff”, not to mention they were made with black beans.  That stuff was the last of some cacao nibs, the last of some walnuts, the last of the chocolate chips and the last two squares of unsweetened baking chocolate.  The batter was delicious and Mr. Muse came into the kitchen from working outside and said, “I smell chocolate!”  He was more than happy to devour a brownie, stuff and all.

After the brownies, I decided to experiment with making Lemon Poppyseed donuts.  I haven’t tried one yet, as I finished cooling, and then glazing, them at 10:30 last night.  But they are ready for breakfast!  Once I finish my big glass of water that is.

I got my hairs cut yesterday, too.  I love my hair stylist – she’s sassy and spunky and we can talk about a variety of things or just be silent.  She did, however, get two new tattoos for her birthday last week which got me thinking about my commitment issues with ink.  While her tattoos looked great, they aren’t really my style, but I actually started a new board on Pinterest with simple-looking tattoos that I like.  One day, maybe I’ll commit to one (Mr. Muse is not amused with this idea).

Update.  I had a donut.  It was good.

Hmm.  I got sucked into Pinterest.  And my coffee is ready, so sipping that, I’ll ponder what’s happened this week that may be of note.

I rode my bicycle oh… a lot, 30 or 40 miles.  One day I logged 19.9 miles on it.  Then the weather turned colder (again) and I’m a wuss, so I haven’t been out to freeze my butt off on it.  It’ll be warmer this week.

I freaked/stressed out about all of the shows I had to watch on the DVR and thought I would delete some of them.  I accidentally deleted everything that had been recorded across the board.  Oops.  Mr. Muse shrugged and said, “No big deal”.  WHEW!

I’m really digging this book “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking” by Susan Cain.  I’m about 20% through it, but it’s speaking to me.  Well, not actually speaking to me… cause that would be crazy.

The neighborhood orioles showed up again and one of them came and tapped on the window to let us know of their arrival.  And for me to get their nectar feeder out.  I had to buy a new one, but I picked one up yesterday and today it will go out for the birds.

I also started a quilt.  Well, the cutting out of the fabric for the quilt.  First color was cut out yesterday, today I’ll work on color number two.  I will also need to purchase more fabric.  Damn.

Hmm, it’s also Mothers’ Day (or is it “Mother’s Day”?).  I got wished a Happy Mothers’ Day online today… which I’m not a mother and have no intention of ever being one, so… that was weird.  But okay…whatevs.  Thank you.

I think I’ll end with saying, Happy Mothers’ Day Mom :)  You’re the best Mom I’ve ever had in this lifetime!

Have a Fabulous Sunday!

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I mustache you a serious question

Posted on May 10, 2013 by

Should I do a VIDEO blog?  You know a “vlog“?

I won’t even charge a flat fee and by the minute.*

What say you?  What should I vlog about?

*I will not be naked.

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That’s IT! I’m never shopping at Abercrombie & Fitch again!! Oh wait…

Posted on May 9, 2013 by

Recently, there has been SO MUCH uproar about Abercrombie & Fitch’s CEO Michael Jeffries’ response to why they don’t sell clothing larger than a size 10, that I was compelled to write about it.

First of all, let’s put the graphic up on the board.

Source: The Book of Faces

Source: The Book of Faces

All douchebaggery aside, the dude was giving an honest answer.  I can’t fault him for his honesty.  Do I think that what he said was appropriate?  I’m not sure.  I’m not sure, because he was being honest – and we need more of that in the world.  I do, however, feel he’s being short-sighted, but whatevs.

Here’s the deal.  I have never shopped at Abercrombie & Fitch.  Shopping there holds no interest for me.  I don’t like wearing t-shirts emblazoned with store logos plastered all over the front of them.  Those few times I was at a mall and approachied an A&F, the music was so blasted loud that I hurried past just to save my ears – and that is coming from ME, someone who gets told that I play my music so loud in my car that people hear me coming.  The difference is: I like my music and I don’t care for what they played in the store.

Let’s recap.  I don’t care for the clothing.  I don’t like their choice in music.  I just don’t care for their whole “culture” of a brand.  It’s not me.  I don’t care that the largest size they carry is a 10 and that’s what I wear.  Reading that quote doesn’t make my feelings change one way or another.  I am not infuriated to the point of boycotting the store.  Why?  Because I never shopped there in the first place.

Listen, I’m not gonna lie to you, I can get really worked up over environmental issues, women’s and equal rights issues, political issues…. but this whole Michael Jeffries’ thing is none of those.  It’s about people taking offence to a truthful, albeit jackass, response to a marketing strategy question.  Now, people who haven’t shopped at A&F before are jumping on the Boycott Bandwagon even though they never would have considered shopping at the stores in the first place.  It’s a delusion of entitlement.

People feel like they are entitled to go wherever and do whatever whenever they want.  Welcome to the Real World.  It doesn’t work like that and all y’all need to just get over yourselves.  There are more important bandwagons to jump on that actually do some good.

To Abercrombie & Fitch, live long and prosper.  You didn’t miss my business in the past, you won’t miss it in the future.  Your marketing strategy appears to be working and I’m not “your customer”.  You don’t want me.  I’m probably not hot enough and for all I know, your size 10 jeans run small, so I’ll be too big.  I’m also too old.  I’m guessing that I’m about 20 years older than your “average” customer.

Also, hooray for me!  I have developed the wisdom to not worry about clothing brands.

How about you?  Are you outraged over this remark?  Were you a customer, but have now changed your mind?  Were you never a customer before but are now boycotting A&F?  How do you really feel about Michael Jeffries response?

UPDATE!  Shortly after posting this, Erika Napoletano uploaded her response on this subject to YouTube.  HILARIOUS!

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